Oh hey there!! It’s been a hot minute since I’ve put out a blog post. I’m sure I’m not the first blogger you’ve come across with a “sorry for my hiatus” speech or post. Look, I am not into making excuses so here’s the harsh truth, blogging is hard. I follow a lot of bloggers on Instagram and had a thought about a year ago of “oh this can’t be that hard, I want to do this.” So I did. I started a blog and I started posting on Instagram everyday and after about three months I was bored out of my mind with it. I felt I was being super repetitive and couldn’t keep up with all of the larger bloggers, traveling the world and having a new outfit every single day. Anyway, to avoid this blog post being 800 years long, I gave up. It was exhausting and I was down on myself and it was no longer a fun outlet.

So, that’s why I stopped but why am I back now? I’ve found myself actually getting bored with some of the bigger bloggers and their unrealistic lives. I’ve found myself attracted to the smaller bloggers who are keeping it real and wearing the same jeans on repeat. Also, I started blogging in the first place as an outlet for my creative side and my mind. I’ve been through a lot of hard time this year alone and I’m just ready to spread my positive vibes to the world. I’m going to focus on sharing and connecting with whoever is watching or reading and stop worrying about how many people like my pictures or read my post. If I can make even one persons day better or teach one person something new than that is enough for me.

Honestly, that’s it. I love sharing my life and my interests so I’m back! I’m excited to share more of my life with you guys and hopefully grow organically with you all.

Until next time baby dolls ♥️✌🏻

Denise Alexandra Whelan


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How do I even begin? For those of you who are bloggers or frequently use Instagram, you will totally understand me. For those of you who are casual Instagram users, I’m about to sound like a whiny brat who is complaining about major millennial issues. Sooooo here are my millennial complaints.

I LOVE Instagram. I found it as an amazing outlet for my creative juices and was truly loving using it as a platform to bring traffic to my blog and YouTube channel. Then, they changed their algorithm. For anyone who is unfamiliar with the change, let’s just say, most people are not a fan. I only see content from about a third of the people I follow, pages I don’t follow are thrown into the middle of my scroll and sponsored post pop up every two seconds. It’s so frustrating. This effects me in so many ways. Not only does it effect the fact that I have to turn on post notifications to make sure that I see my best friends, family members and favorites bloggers posts, but also my engagement has suffered tremendously.

Now let’s be honest, most of you are reading this and thinking ‘who the hell cares about your engagement Denise, I just like seeing your pictures… yet that’s the messed up thing. So many people who CHOSE to follow me aren’t even seeing my post anymore. For reference, when I had less than 1,000 followers, I was receiving around 200-300 likes and 20-30 comments on each post. I now have around 1,200 followers (because after the algorithm change my follower count has been stuck at the same number) and I receive around 100 likes and 10 comments a post.

It’s mainly just discouraging because I was truly loving posting so much and seeing my page grow and knowing that sooner or later the possibility of making blogging/instagramming a career was possible. I don’t want to blog because it’s easy, I want to blog so I can work from home and provide a stable environment for my future children where I can be present. I never chose a traditional career, I mean I’m a bartender, let’s get real.

I am trying so very hard not to give up on the idea of succeeding in this industry just because of the fear of not growing or working with no result. I am trying to stay positive and motivated and openly praying that Instagram will listen to its users and return back to chronological order.

Then the fighter in me takes over and I want to fight for this. I don’t want to let some algorithm change discourage or defeat me. I am more than a change in an app. I am passionate about this and I will not give up. I am here to spread my positivity and love with the world and nothing can stop that.

So here’s to hoping and I sincerely appreciate every single one of you that took the time to read this post.

Muah 💋

Denise Whelan